Sometimes PEOPLE don't wanna be themselves because they're afraid people
won't except THEM for who they really ARE. So they live the life of a
DISGUISE hiding there true self under something the world seems to be
conditioned to, because that's all they OFFERED to society. When there's
so much more, when you [GIVE YOURSELF].
when your acting like something your not and people begin to get use to it, you think they're accepting you? NO THEY'RE NOT. Be yourself and show the world who you really are. Nothing is more disgusting then someone who doesn't like who they are. Maybe you need to change your habits. Who you hang out with. Where you work. The way you do your hair. All of this hard but you need to do so. The longer you go trying to disguise yourself, the more your breaking your own heart because deep down your not happy. And being happy is everything!
love this one<3 ; I needed shit like this in freshman year dude!
ReplyDeleteNice post Jonathan, this is a very important personal issue, and one that has fascinated many "existential" philosophers.
ReplyDeleteTo be an authentic person is one of the greatest and most rewarding struggles a person can undertake, and it is a lifelong one. Sometimes I catch myself playing a certain social role in order to meet the expectations of others - what a teacher is "supposed" to act like - or a friend is "supposed" to say. I feel like I have to be consistent in these roles because, if I'm not, then I am letting others down. But really, I am letting myself down - because I have reduced myself into a performer, an imitator of some role model that I have modeled myself after. And the irony is that I am probably not doing anyone any favors by pretending to be something I'm not! Others can tell when we fake it, whether consciously or unconsciously, and so what kind of "friend" am I being then?
The true creativity of life - and it's true joy - is in the moment, when I'm true to what I feel. I don't know what I'm going to say before I say it, I just respond to situations as they arise. Sometimes this makes things awkward, because the unexpected is scary sometimes - but as long as I stay committed to my creative expression and positive intention, I know I will be all right. The only obstacle is the patience of the other person and the exigencies of time--people have places to go and other things to do, and awkwardness can sometimes turn people off if they are experiencing insecurities of their own.
Living like this - authentically - is frightening, because everyone - myself included - prefers the false security of preparation for any situation. When in fact, preparedness - that planning of what to say, is what robs us of our spontaneity.
That said, a certain amount of conformity is important though, is required - because without social norms and expectations it would be difficult for society to function. But among close friends that freedom to be ourselves is a necessity. That's why it's important to find the right friends who accept us for ourselves.
-Paul